So tonight after a yummy dinner with our sweet neighbors McKay and I got talking about holidays... and who we were going to spend them with.
Now I know that this is a tough subject for a lot of newly wed couples because it is sometimes hard to split your time among Two or more families instead of just the one that you did when you were single. McKay and I are no exception and there have been some hard decisions in the past year on who we should spend each holiday with. We REALLY want to be fair and spend time with everyone because we both LOVE hanging out with our families, but it seems like we are always forgetting who we spent the holiday with last year and whos turn is it this year.
So... We tried to be organized (now don't laugh at this next part because it has taken away a lot of stress)...we made a chart. A full blown diagram of who we would spend which holiday with for the next few years, it is basically a rotation. Before Christmas we made just for Thanksgiving and Christmas because those seemed to be the hardest holidays out of the year, but tonight we made one for ALL holidays and we tried to be as fair as possible.
Weird? Pathetic? Crazy? are any of those terms going through your mind yet? Probably cause they are going through mine. But I think it will be a lifesaver. Maybe in a world where all of our families lived close enough to each other that it was possible to visit them all in one weekend and not go crazy from driving so much we could live without it. But in a few months we are moving farther away from our families and I fear that things would just get more complicated so for now our chart is staying. So here's to wishful thinking that we could find such an easy solution to our holiday drama! (probably not, I will let you know how it goes) Does any one else ever have this problem? Any amazing solutions that you would like to share with us newly weds?
Well that is all from me for tonight, and before I go I do have to say thank you to our WONDERFUL families who love us no matter what, even if we can't see them on every holiday. We love you! Have a good night!
I love that idea and I don't think it's crazy. We had to do something similar even though our families live a block apart from each other because someone always ends up feeling left out or like they're getting less time. It does help the stress and it's nice to already know where each holiday is being spent, even the little ones.
ReplyDeleteIt is really hard. Andrew and I went through the same thing for 2 years. The holidays started to be really stressful. I hated it. So Andrew and I decided it was time to do our own thing once we had Korbin. We do christmas and thanksgiving at our house. On all the other holidays we still pick and choose either just our little family or to travel . It has become alot less stressful. We will never go back to every other holiday thing. Its hard at first to not be with family on the specific day, But we make a day before the holiday to celebrate with extended family.
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